Gold Coast Wellness Coach

Would you agree that without a strong enough reason for doing something it’s probably not going to get done? This is the essence of emotional fitness. Unless you are emotionally equipped you will find it hard if not impossible to be successful in any area of your life. I believe it is the foundation for everything we experience.

Almost every person I have ever coached came to me because they had reached a point in their life where they knew something had to change. They all wanted this thing really badly but had figured out that just wanting something hadn’t actually worked for them since back in the day when they still believed in Santa Claus.

In my early years as a coach I couldn’t understand why some of  the people I coached excelled and changed their lives forever while others, no matter how hard I tried, just never got there. How could people with the same desire and being offered the same level of care and attention have such different experiences?

I am not a trained scholar and have no letters after my name, I have always prefered my life lessons and experience to come from taking a broader, less rigid view of things. I don’t believe there is ever just one right answer or one right way of doing something, so for the last 30 years I have studied human behaviour from every perspective I could find and these are my observations.

Whether it comes from an intellectual or spiritual base the underlying message seems to be the same. Are you ready.. here it comes.. the answers to all life’s challenges….

Your mind is the most under-rated, untapped, undervalued, powerful resource available to you on this planet. Did I say my guidance was going to be simple? Mmmm….

Right now you might be wondering, “How on earth can I access my minds full potential?” Thankfully once again the answer is simple and all seem to agree…they just have different methods of delivering what once again appears to me to be the same message.

Every moment of every day we are making choices about absolutely everything and the decisions we make as a result of those choices is what we act upon. Those actions then create the circumstances of our future.

The more fully we learn to understand and appreciate the power this actually gives us over our lives the more excited we become about the idea that we can deliberately design our future experiences. If in this moment you are feeling more overwhelmed than excited, don’t worry there is of course a simple way to sort through the vast variety of choices life offers you.

In every moment that you are faced with a choice just ask yourself this question,

“How am I really feeling right now?”

By constantly asking yourself how you are really feeling about everything that is on your mind you will start to train your brain to get more and more clarity about what you want and what you don’t want. There are no rules, no right or wrong answers, no appropriate or inappropriate responses. This is all about you discovering what authentically feels good to you without fear of other peoples opinions.

An example of what I mean by this is to think about all the times you have done something because you thought it was ‘the right thing to do’. Even though it didn’t feel good to you, you went ahead and did it anyway only to regret having done it later on.

By taking action on things that feel good to you instead of acting from a place of conditioned response you will start to feel more in control of your life and have a greater sense of personal freedom. You will be more pumped up, enthusiastic and motivated about everything you are doing. This choice alone will make your life more fun and enjoyable. You will start to find purpose in everything you do which will give you the massive reason you need to get whatever it is you want.

Of course, I am only giving you the basics and it can be greatly expanded upon from here. The process is simple but it does require you to manage and monitor your thoughts. You are creating thoughts all day long and and it is just as easy to look for hopeful, happy thoughts that let you enjoy each day of your life as it is to look for pessimistic ones that make you feel angry, frustrated and overwhelmed and diminish your health and happiness.

Emotional Fitness is currently one of my favourite areas of coaching. If you are interested in knowing more about my  coaching program please email me on the contact us page.